Weekend Inspirations: My week













My week consisted of: unearthing my summer sundresses to wear poolside with a big straw hat as I edit and review manuscripts from writer friends. Stocking up on sunscreen, fresh herbs and new thick, black pens. Nursing a child with a high-fever in the middle of the night. Finishing the first draft of BLESSED ARE THE MEEK, my second novel in my mystery series featuring San Francisco Bay Area crime reporter Gabriella Giovanni. Attending the baptism of our family’s newest member. Taking the kids to the Stone Arch Bridge to watch a surreal, somber funeral/Mardi Gras-style mini parade with gymnastics and people on stilts with the Northern Spark festival and light show in the background. Wearing my Jack Rogers sandals and loving my Longchamp Le Pliage, which totes manuscripts, moleskins, sunscreen, and even more pens. Watching the last two episodes of “Downton Abbey Season 2” and crying a bit at the end. Spending family movie night eating pizza and popcorn and laughing with my kids and husband at Dana Carvey’s hilarious acting in “The Master of Disguise.” Reading Bryan Gruley’s STARVATION LAKE for myself and reading A WRINKLE IN TIME (again), this time to my kids at bedtime.

Weekend Inspirations: Mysteristas

I just joined a lovely group of women mystery writers on a new blog.


We’re mystery writers who love to talk about reading, writing, and other relevant topics.

Please join us in an interactive tweeting session on Wednesdays at 1 p.m. Hashtag: #mysteristas

Meanwhile, check out our page: http://mysteristas.wordpress.com/

The lovely Cynthia Kuhn put together the page, including suggesting we all get Mad Men Avatars. Too much fun. Also, check out the ABOUT page to see how we all “look”. (Mine is above!)



Weekend Inspirations: Be in the 7 percent

I’ve seen a few versions of this one but to be fair to Regina Brett, I wanted to post her original column.

With that said, I did like one replacement I saw. Instead of number 5 (pay off credit cards), I saw this that I actually prefer: “Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.”

Originally published in The Plain Dealer on Sunday, May 28, 2006

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.

It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolls over to 50 this week, so here’s an update:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.